Comments on: The Expiration Date

By: Kailin

Kailin — Sun, 03 Jul 2011 23:07:53 +0000

Your answer was just what I needed. It made my day!

By: Janaye

Janaye — Sun, 03 Jul 2011 19:04:00 +0000

Your article was excellent.

By: Johnavon

Johnavon — Sun, 03 Jul 2011 16:39:43 +0000

Holy Toledo, so glad I clicked on this site first!

By: Tiffany K

Tiffany K — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 07:53:54 +0000

I agree with Sammy. My mother has never pressured me about getting married and I think it’s because of her own experience with marriage. Me, my mom and sister are all single and we’re just like “Whenever you want to do it Lord it will happen.” I really thank God for that type of household

By: Sammy

Sammy — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 07:53:17 +0000

I used to think, I’ll get married whenever it happens. I know how women can go crazy when they start to approach the age of 30, I am 26 and shrug my shoulders about it and move forward. My parents honestly have never spoken to me or my sisters about dating or marriage, so I have not felt any pressure by them. The only thing my mother ever wanted was for us to have a good man by our side. Though, I would like to get married before Jesus comes back.

By: Larissa Dayana Jean

Larissa Dayana Jean — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 07:52:41 +0000

Rickyia,
I love your honesty! I think it’s important that we are real withourselves and honest with God with how we’re feeling at times. God can take it! lol. I really appreciate you saying that, because if the truth be told, sometimes I feel the same way too! When it comes to the desire to want to be married and leave “singlehood” behind, like you mentioned, I sometimes feel, “Oh no! Does this mean that I love God less?!” My answer to that is absolutely not:) The desire to be married is not a bad desire; in fact, it is a godly desire. God said in the Word that it is not good for man to be alone. This is why God saw the need for Adam to have a suitable helpmate. It’s a normal feeling to ponder, “Hmmm, it’s been a minute now, Lord…why am I still single?” But, let me encourage everyone, that God’s timing is PERFECT and when He sees fit to send us our “knight in shining armor,” it will be worth the wait. I talk about this a little bit in one of the chapters of the book, but our “waiting time” is not “wasted time.” There is a reason why God has us in this season. So, let’s make the most of it!
Let also say, that it’s okay to feel “vulnerable.” It’s just you expressing a need that we know that the Father can fill. Know that God hears the desires of your heart and those unspoken prayers. He’s got you!

By: RickyiaW

RickyiaW — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 07:52:06 +0000

You know what… I feel the need to be transparent about this topic. Whenever I read or hear single women talk about their desire to be married or in a serious relationship (especially women of God), or even when I admit that I want to begin a relationship with my “knight in shining armor” myself, I feel this pang of shame come over me. It’s like I feel ashamed of the desire to want to be in a relationship… ashamed to admit that I am ready to leave single-life behind. And it’s not the shame of “I’m not satisfied with God” kinda shame- it’s like this “I feel vulnerable” kind of shame. It’s hard to explain- but it’s like I have to pretend that I’m perfectly overjoyed with being single (but I am content- trust me), because if I even scarcely acknowledge that I want to be in a relationship- then it means that I have to ask myself why am I still single then- and what’s wrong with me. Now, I know that it’s all a big load of crap from Satan- but it is a feeling that comes over me. There…. I said it and got it out in the open. Alright Larissa- (and others) let’s hear it… lol

By: Larissa Dayana Jean

Larissa Dayana Jean — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 07:51:14 +0000

Alicia, you are absolutely right. I think what it ultimately boils down to is TRUST. Do we trust God with this area of our lives completely? It is a real concern for most single women about when they will get married. I had a friend share with me that her desire is to be married before she hits 30 because she would like to have children young. We serve a loving Father, who not only knows the desires of our hearts, but knows the right time to fulfill those desires. I believe that there should come a time in a young women’s life that she is secure in knowing where her validation comes from. There was a season in my life where I viewed marriage as a “promotion” or a prize to be won. This is not what God intended marriage to be. Our validation comes from Jesus Christ alone—not a “M.R.S.” title in front of our names. The reason I wanted to share this particuar excerpt is because I know that the concern is real. But rest assured ladies! We don’t have an expiration date, lol. God can fulfill the desires of our heart, regardless of any man made timetables. It’s in HIS timing anyway!

By: Alicia

Alicia — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 07:50:40 +0000

I used to have this timetable for my life, where all of my plans were made…I even had a tentative wedding date (time of day included lol) I do understand the pressure, and to say that I still do not want to be married by that date would be untrue but I have found a certain peace in knowing that in due season my time will come, and that if I am faithful to God now He will give us the desires of our heart, so I try not to worry, I may think about it sometimes but I shake it off because I realize that when I do find that special person it will be the right time and I will be completely ready to share my life with him as the woman that God has molded me to be….